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Carolyn Furber's avatar

I totally get it Catherine. My name is Carolyn. Despite being spelt and pronounced (ok, slightly) differently, I am still addressed as Caroline on a daily basis. If I correct people, they quite often respond with, “It’s almost the same”. So I’ve taken to calling people by a name that’s similar to theirs (e.g. Tony instead of Toby). It’s fun to watch them hesitate before replying, even though I’m not sure if they realise I’ve done it 🤣!

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Pilar Collignon's avatar

I used to correct people every time. My name is Pilar, my mom’s name is Pilar and we are Mexican. So everyone called me Pilarcita growing up. My mom’s friends still do!!! So I corrected people my age or strangers to PILAR.

The shorter version is Pili. After 20 something yrs of living, I gave up and gave people the liberty of choice. I present myself as Pilar. My friends call me Pili, Shu, Pi, Pills, Mufasa, Pilishu… their kids call me by the nickname their parents call me. My family calls me Pilarcita, Pili, Pilita. My late brother called me Kiri. My husband has a new nickname for me every couple of years. But my favorite name is Mami, how my kids call me.

I do call people by their chosen name, except some high school friends that ara stuck with their nickname 🙈

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